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In today's email, I share the second realization that dawned on me.

One that reshaped my perspective.

The impact of Relationship Dynamics on my life.

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But first, let's briefly revisit our last discussion on Self-Awareness.

The start of my journey, where I was forced to slow down.

Creating some breathing space through a period of stillness and self-discovery.

This is where I found and took the opportunity just to notice.

Notice the subtle patterns around me.

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As my fourth baby’s due date neared, I planned a visit to London.

In my excitement, I decided to bring homemade Roti’s (Indian flatbreads) for my mother.

I went to collect the rotis from a local businesswoman.

Upon returning home, the atmosphere at home was noticeably tense.

Once again, that indicated I’d done something I shouldn't have, but I wasn’t quite sure what it was.

As usual, I tried to shrug it off.

And I busied myself with packing and preparing for the trip.

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But this incident was a catalyst.

I was clouded by clarity.

With the familiarity of Self-Awareness, I began to notice the Relationship Dynamics at home and how they directed my overall well-being.

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• A decade of living in a joint family setup, and feeling like an outsider.
• A decade of accumulated emotions, unaddressed issues and unspoken expectations.
• A decade of being part of a culture of naming, blaming and shaming, all contributed to my endless feelings of guilt, isolation and confusion.

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Within the next two hours, the tension escalated, peaking in words that felt like I was being pushed out of my own home.

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As always, I didn't quite understand it.

Because there were too many gaps in the story that I was told.

Or too many tangles I had to untangle.

But now I’d just had enough of it.

There and then I made a decision.

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“Something has to change. And I’m going to figure it out!”

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The decision was critical in making a significant life change.

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Moving out.

Seeking Understanding.

And most importantly, supporting my emotional well-being.

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The journey was not easy.

But the uncomfortable process of change led me to where I am now.

A calm mom, who is kind, caring and understands the lifelong benefits of real connection.

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To begin your journey consider the following:

Building Self-Awareness: Slow down and create some breathing space. Notice the patterns and their emotional impact on your life.

Focusing on Relationship Dynamics: Notice how your relationships at home, at work or socially either energize you or drain you.

Intentional Lifestyle Choices: (To be explored in the next email) Analyse your average day. Collect and analyze Emotional data to redesign your day.

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For now, I encourage you to reflect on your Relationship Dynamics.

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• What are the default reactions of the adults closest to you?
• How are they influencing your emotions and overall well-being?
• What is the one change you can make today to begin your journey to a more balanced life?

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Let's take one conscious step forward and embrace the power of change.

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Join me as we continue this journey of self-discovery and transformation.

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Until next time

Khatija

P.S. Recognizing the need is the most significant step. If you are ready to take that step but need guidance, feel free to book a call: https://calendly.com/concisevisuals/discovery-call​

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